If you’ve read my prior blog, you’d know that my couple of weeks WFH got approved and I was thinking I’d finally get some proper relaxation time. But life had other plans. My granny is here now, and honestly, I was hoping to stay at home alone for a bit. I had this whole vision of starting a YouTube channel or working on something creative outside of work. That plan feels a bit off now. I really value my alone time, you know?
But hey, I’m trying to turn this into an opportunity instead of dwelling on what could’ve been. Maybe because of her being here, I’ll wake up early, have my meals on time, maintain some structure. Let’s see how it goes 😊
My Amazing Wife 💛
My wife is incredibly friendly with my granny. She cooks for her, cares for her, makes sure she’s comfortable. She’s genuinely very caring and sweet like that. But she also has to work, and unlike me, she doesn’t have the luxury of WFH. She has to go to the office every single day. So it’s better I help her out with things at home.
She gets exhausted, and I can see it. Honestly, it’s good that she goes to the office. I want her to have that space where she can be herself, chill a little, breathe without anyone judging her or needing validation for every little thing she does. Sometimes even I can be demanding, and I don’t know what happens to me but I end up giving her a hard time. I’m working on it, really. We’ve only been married for about a year and a half, so I’m figuring out a lot along the way. And so is she, by the way. It’s not just me. She gives me a hard time too 😄
She’s Usually Right (But Shh) 🤫
I have to say, she’s an amazing woman. A lot of times I depend on her for inputs and decisions, and she’s usually right. But shh, can’t say that out loud too often! I know it, and I acknowledge it occasionally in front of her. You see, if I keep validating her all the time, she becomes a bit overconfident. I’ve tried that before and it wasn’t good for either of us.
When she’s right, she’s right. When she’s wrong, she’s wrong. Same goes for me, of course. But here’s the thing. She’s like a kid in some ways. If you don’t say anything, she feels everything’s perfectly fine and keeps repeating the same mistakes again and again. So sometimes I feel it’s not okay to agree with her all the time or accept that she’s right about everything. Once she finds that balance, I’m sure I’ll be upfront and tell her she doesn’t need me to intervene. She can just go ahead with most decisions without discussion.
Letting Her Lead 🌟
Currently, in most areas, I’ve stopped worrying too much and let her decide a lot of things around and about our life. I’m okay with her taking any decision. It’s fine even if she’s wrong sometimes. After all, she’s human too. She makes mistakes, and it’s important for her to learn from them. This is something I want her to be okay with too. I may have taken some decisions, and she should be fine with that. I understand that when I’m wrong, I’ll correct it, but there’s no need to constantly nudge or second-guess.
She’s a little impatient though. I think it’s all those YouTube videos and Instagram reels she watches. Those 30-second content pieces, you know? Hehe, maybe that’s it, maybe not 😅
My Crazy Little Kid 🎈
She’s basically like a kid. My crazy little kid!! She’s all crazy, naughty, funny, and I absolutely love that about her. I want her to enjoy her life to the fullest, and I’m genuinely trying to build that kind of environment around her.
Here’s the interesting dynamic. In my family with my parents, grandparents, and everyone, she’s actually the youngest of all. But in her own family, she’s the eldest. So she kind of acts all grown up and responsible, which doesn’t really work here. People in my family are used to seeing me all chill and relaxed, and then there’s this girl being super responsible and serious about everything. They find it funny, honestly.
She puts so many restrictions on herself. She’s strict with herself about a lot of things, very disciplined, very by-the-book. I may have spoiled her a little bit, being the last and youngest kid in my family. I keep telling her, “Chill bro, why so much tension, dude?” But hey, she needed to cool down a bit. She needed to experience the kid in her.
Let Her Be a Kid ✨
You see, these elder kids grow up way too quickly because of parental pressure. “Is this the example you want to set for your younger sibling?” and all that. But the elder kid is still a kid after all. Please! That’s why I wanted her to relax and let loose. She can be serious later, and only when it’s actually needed. But why so serious all the time now?
For My Du Du 💕
Overall, I love this fun little monkey of mine, my wife. This one’s for you, du du. I don’t know if you’ll ever read this, but there’s so much more about you I want to share with the world. Maybe some other time, or maybe I’ll even create a whole blog just for you, eh?
I Love You – Puchku Du Du 💛❤️
